In Defense of Getting Married Young

by Katie on February 16, 2014

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I was 21 years old when we got married. I actually turned 22 at midnight at our wedding reception. I had just graduated from college 2 months before my wedding day and started my first job 3 weeks before we got married.  My husband was 23 and had graduated from college the year before.  He proposed to me on December 22, 2004 and we were married on July 23, 2005, a quick  and exciting engagement. We couldn’t wait to start our life together.We were young, but we were in love.

My husband and I graduated from a small liberal arts college in rural Iowa, where many of our friends and classmates met their spouse and proceeded to get married immediately following college. Getting married young was the norm where were I was from. I think often times getting married young tends to be looked down upon. People think that there is no way that somebody who has not even experienced the real world is ready to take the serious the marriage commitment. And I get it, I really do. We know many of our classmates who were married right out of college who are now divorced, it does not always work out…no matter how old you are when you get married. But we also know many, many more who are happily married.

I never feel like I missed out on anything by getting married young. I got all my wild stuff out (Hello Freshman and Sophomore years I am talking to you) in college and did not need any more years like that. We were also married for 4 years before we had kids, so we had lots of time to spend with friends and each other before the demands of kids came. 

I  am so happy that I found the person who I get to do life with so early on. In a sense, we became adults together. We have navigated the working world together and have been each others rocks during hard time. We bought a house together and have gone on some amazing trips. We have seen the other become a parent, not once, but twice. We are only 30 and 32, yet we have been married for almost 9 years.  And yes, yes, we have changed, but we have changed together.


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1 sarah farnsworth February 16, 2014 at 10:29 pm

those simpson sweethearts!! there’s something about that place, right??? we have almost the same story! we were friends first, finally started dating and were engaged 6 months later, then i graduated from simpson, got married 2 weeks later, and 14 years later loving life!


2 Sincerely, Jenni February 17, 2014 at 9:25 am

What a great story! I think it shouldn’t matter how old you are– when you know you’ve found the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, just go with it!


3 Angela Squires February 19, 2014 at 10:27 am

Beautifully said! We were married young, too–ages 21 and 22. We dated 15 months and were engaged 15 months, and there was no way we were waiting any longer than that! 🙂 I love that we were married young, because then we got to start our family young. We were both 22 when we became parents, and we’ll be 43 and 44 when our youngest two graduate from high school.

I love the last line of your post. It almost moved me to tears, because truly, doing life together with the one God has given you to love is the most beautiful gift.


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